So, why are we talking about a 30 day time frame here?
We’re looking at a 30 day time frame because this post isn’t about entirely about sticking to your new habits.
It’s about building confidence, trust, and belief in yourself through keeping a commitment to yourself.
Within 30 days, you have proven to yourself that you can stick to something and that you will show up for yourself day in and day out.
Then it’s just a matter of making that commitment to yourself a priority.
The Underlying Belief: Affirmation + Motivation = Action
Our thoughts and beliefs rule our lives.
Whether you purposely fill your life with affirmations or let negativity run rampant in your mind, your actions are affected by each thought and belief you have.
You need to dig deep and discover your real beliefs, because it’s possible to lie to yourself.
Your undiscovered beliefs affect your actions.
There is something within each of us that we believe to be true, even if we won’t consciously admit it.
These beliefs often sit to the tune of:
I’m not good enough
I’m afraid of success
No one loves me
I’m not worth it
I’ll never be able to do it
I’m not the right kind of person
Can you see how these kinds of thoughts can sabotage your best intentions?
Spend some time uncovering your deep-seeded belief that may be working against your efforts, and then replace it with a belief that will motivate you to continue your new habit regardless of your circumstance.
This is going to be tough.
It’s going to take time.
That’s why you need to create your own mantra composed of affirmation + motivation.
The difference between affirmation and motivation is subtle but important.
Affirmation and motivation… aren’t those pretty similar? Let’s look at the difference.
Affirmation is a matter of self-respect.
In order to improve something you first have to view it as something worth improving.
Affirmation is the belief that YOU are WORTH the trouble of trying to improve.
This is your starting place.
Next, you figure out your motivation.
Motivation is the big WHY.
Why do you want to start this new habit? How is going to affect you and those around you?
This is your reason for sticking to this habit regardless of how you feel. It’s the bigger picture.
Affirmation is the BELIEF that you are worth improving. Motivation is WHY you’re worth improving.
“I have inherent value spiritually, intellectually, and physically (affirmation). I take care of myself spiritually and intellectually, so I should also take care of myself physically by eating a healthy breakfast and working out 3 days a week (measurable habit). If I am physically fit, I will be a better wife and mom. I’ll be able to keep up with my kids better (motivation).”
Make this your mantra.
You are worth the work. The impact it will have on your life and those around you is worth sticking to it.
You can make a larger impact in this life when you take the time to improve yourself. You improve the relationships around you.
Streamline Your Intentionality Through Habits
Living a more intentional life does not mean that you have to think about and consider every little action.
So much of your intentionality can be streamlined through the use of creating and sticking to new habits.
Sure, it takes quite a bit of thought and effort up front, but once your new habits have become a way of life for you, you’ll be improving your life out of habit so that you can purposely work on other areas of improvement.
Commit to your new habit until you don’t have to think about it anymore.
Remember our 66 days?
Commit to one action for 66 days.
Once that habit becomes an ingrained part of your life, not only have you made things easier on yourself, you’ve also proven to yourself that you absolutely can make a difference in your own life through choice.
Focus on your cues.
Figure out what actions cause you to take action on the habit you want to change.
For example, if you immediately hit snooze and keep sleeping when your alarm goes off right next to your bed, then change your cues.
Instead, try moving your alarm across the room so that you have to physically get up to turn off your alarm.
Will that keep you from getting back in the bed? No. But at least now you have to think about it, and you give yourself the opportunity to succeed with your new habit.
Changing your cues helps to curb the difficulty of replacing a habit.
Changing a cue is like heading off a situation.
You know you binge eat candy like there’s no tomorrow when you pop in a movie on Friday night, so you decide to skip the movie and have a game night instead.
Get ahead of your habits. Outsmart them. Create new cues and bypass the difficulty of trying to change something that’s ingrained in you.
Don’t do everything at once.
Please don’t try to fix everything at one time.
Focus on one or two new habits, and as they become ingrained into your lifestyle, build upon those habits.
Trying to decide where to start? Here a few posts that will help you decide on a starting point: