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Creating New Habits: The Best Way to Build Confidence and Belief in Yourself Within 30 Days

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At the beginning of each new year, we all set out on a journey to start creating new habits.

We’re full of ambition, big dreams, confidence, and belief that this is the year we do it. The year we get in shape. The year we start the blog or the business.

You’re ready to start your new life.

And then January 2nd hits like a truck and you’re back to square one.

What makes creating and sticking to habits so hard?

Lack of time? Energy?

Maybe.

But I think it goes deeper than that.

The inability to follow through on a commitment to yourself is a sign of a deeper problem.

When you struggle with something, such as keeping a new habit, there’s an underlying belief that’s holding you back.

You don’t actually believe you can do it. You don’t believe you’re good enough.

It’s easy to get caught up in the hype of new year’s resolutions and forget the most important ingredients to the recipe: belief and confidence.

When you stick to a new habit, you build belief and confidence in yourself.

Just like being a dependable employee or friend, as you show up for yourself over and over you’ll begin to trust in your own dependability.

The belief that you can’t stick to something will dissipate.

Challenges and lifestyle changes will be met with confidence.

Today is the beginning of belief and confidence for you.

Today we’re going to talk about:

  • How long it actually takes to create a new habit and why you need to hang in there
  • The underlying belief that helps you commit or keeps you from committing to a new habit
  • Why you need to spend time creating new habits
  • The reward of commitment

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How Long Does it Take to Create a New Habit?

We’ve all heard that it takes 21 days to create a new habit.

Have you tried it? Did it stick?

After 21 days, you’re beginning to grow your confidence in yourself, but the flaw you end up with is giving yourself permission to slack off.

It’s been 21 days. I’ve got this. I can take off a day… or two.

And then you’re back to square one.

Sure, you can make mistakes here and there, but you need to have a plan to get back on track as quickly as possible.

It actually takes closer to 66 days.

What??

The average person needs around 66 days of consistent action to develop one habit into something automatic.

66 days.

This is why it’s easy to skip on your new habit a few weeks in. It’s not that you can’t keep a habit, it’s that you haven’t given it enough consistent effort for it to become automatic.

To read more about why it takes 66 days, check out this post from James Clear: How Long Does it Actually Take to Form a New Habit? (Backed by Science)

So, why are we talking about a 30 day time frame here?

We’re looking at a 30 day time frame because this post isn’t about entirely about sticking to your new habits.

It’s about building confidence, trust, and belief in yourself through keeping a commitment to yourself.

Within 30 days, you have proven to yourself that you can stick to something and that you will show up for yourself day in and day out.

Then it’s just a matter of making that commitment to yourself a priority.

Creating new habits is the best way to build belief and confidence within yourself. Click through to find out why.

The Underlying Belief: Affirmation + Motivation = Action

Our thoughts and beliefs rule our lives.

Whether you purposely fill your life with affirmations or let negativity run rampant in your mind, your actions are affected by each thought and belief you have.

You need to dig deep and discover your real beliefs, because it’s possible to lie to yourself.

Your undiscovered beliefs affect your actions.

There is something within each of us that we believe to be true, even if we won’t consciously admit it.

These beliefs often sit to the tune of:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m afraid of success
  • No one loves me
  • I’m not worth it
  • I’ll never be able to do it
  • I’m not the right kind of person

Can you see how these kinds of thoughts can sabotage your best intentions?

Spend some time uncovering your deep-seeded belief that may be working against your efforts, and then replace it with a belief that will motivate you to continue your new habit regardless of your circumstance.

This is going to be tough.

It’s going to take time.

That’s okay.

That’s why you need to create your own mantra composed of affirmation + motivation.

The difference between affirmation and motivation is subtle but important.

Affirmation and motivation… aren’t those pretty similar? Let’s look at the difference.

Affirmation is a matter of self-respect.

In order to improve something you first have to view it as something worth improving.

Affirmation is the belief that YOU are WORTH the trouble of trying to improve.

This is your starting place.

Next, you figure out your motivation.

Motivation is the big WHY.

Why do you want to start this new habit? How is going to affect you and those around you?

This is your reason for sticking to this habit regardless of how you feel. It’s the bigger picture.

Affirmation is the BELIEF that you are worth improving. Motivation is WHY you’re worth improving.

For example:

“I have inherent value spiritually, intellectually, and physically (affirmation). I take care of myself spiritually and intellectually, so I should also take care of myself physically by eating a healthy breakfast and working out 3 days a week (measurable habit). If I am physically fit, I will be a better wife and mom. I’ll be able to keep up with my kids better (motivation).”

Make this your mantra.

You are worth the work. The impact it will have on your life and those around you is worth sticking to it.

You can make a larger impact in this life when you take the time to improve yourself. You improve the relationships around you.

Creating new habits is the best way to build belief and confidence within yourself. Click through to find out why.

Streamline Your Intentionality Through Habits

Living a more intentional life does not mean that you have to think about and consider every little action.

So much of your intentionality can be streamlined through the use of creating and sticking to new habits.

Sure, it takes quite a bit of thought and effort up front, but once your new habits have become a way of life for you, you’ll be improving your life out of habit so that you can purposely work on other areas of improvement.

Commit to your new habit until you don’t have to think about it anymore.

Remember our 66 days?

Commit to one action for 66 days.

Once that habit becomes an ingrained part of your life, not only have you made things easier on yourself, you’ve also proven to yourself that you absolutely can make a difference in your own life through choice.

Focus on your cues.

Figure out what actions cause you to take action on the habit you want to change.

For example, if you immediately hit snooze and keep sleeping when your alarm goes off right next to your bed, then change your cues.

Instead, try moving your alarm across the room so that you have to physically get up to turn off your alarm.

Will that keep you from getting back in the bed? No. But at least now you have to think about it, and you give yourself the opportunity to succeed with your new habit.

Changing your cues helps to curb the difficulty of replacing a habit.

Changing a cue is like heading off a situation.

You know you binge eat candy like there’s no tomorrow when you pop in a movie on Friday night, so you decide to skip the movie and have a game night instead.

Get ahead of your habits. Outsmart them. Create new cues and bypass the difficulty of trying to change something that’s ingrained in you.

Don’t do everything at once.

Please don’t try to fix everything at one time.

Focus on one or two new habits, and as they become ingrained into your lifestyle, build upon those habits.

Trying to decide where to start? Here a few posts that will help you decide on a starting point:

Celebrate Consistency

Make the effort to track your new habit.

Post your journey on social media.

Utilize a habit tracker.

Regardless of how you choose to track your new habit, just TRACK IT.

Enjoy watching yourself succeed over and over again.

Let yourself take pride in consistency.

Build your trust in yourself.

Layer and build those new habits and become the person you want to be.

SimpleQuietMama.com Habit Tracker Printable

It’s Not Going to Happen Overnight

Intentional living is about choosing the person you want to become and making it a habit.

Struggling with confidence and belief in yourself doesn’t have to be something you’re stuck with for the rest of your life.

Do something about it.

No one else can change the way you feel about yourself.

But you can.

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